Can parents of young children enjoy shopping, or should they avoid shopping with their children altogether? Shopping with young children can be challenging. Children with autism in particular may have difficulties with shopping because of crowds, fear of the unknown, overstimulation, sensory processing difficulties, and past shopping experiences.

As a parent, it can be scary taking your child out in public where they may have meltdowns and you may feel the judgement of strangers. Here are some recommendations that may help shopping become more enjoyable and an easier part of your weekly routine.

Start small by taking short successful trips.
Walk around the store without getting anything. Then gradually make the trips longer and add items to buy.

Know your store.
Go to smaller stores that are less overwhelming. Get the items on your list quickly.

Pick your time.
Go during the least busy times.

Set expectations.
A social story can outline what happens at the store (see example below). Photos and visuals along with shopping lists, schedules, and first/then boards can help your child understand the expectations.

Use language your child will understand.
For some kids “wait nicely” works; others need more specific and concrete language (e.g. “keep your hands on the cart or down”).

Practice.
Role play at home and practice on short trips to a store multiple times per week.

Reward appropriate behavior.
Reward your child for specific behavior, such as staying with you or helping get items on the list. The reward should be given for the specific expectations. For example, if you set the expectations that your child will put items in the cart, tell them what a great job they did putting things in the cart when you give them the reward. As the child is successful with simpler goals, gradually increase demands.

Focus on success with your child rather than how much shopping was accomplished.
Watch for precursors to behaviors and end the trip early if necessary. A shopping trip that ends with lesser behaviors is still a success.

Remember to reward yourself.
This is a journey that you both are taking together.